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5 Tips To Overcome Self-Criticism

March 26, 2018
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Self-criticism is a personality trait that affects the lives of many individuals. For those who struggle with it, it may seem like a constant battle with your inner-self. Trying new things and making certain decisions can be difficult because your inner-critic always seems to be ready with a harsh critique.

 

Silence your inner-critic once and for all. Learn how to overcome negative self-criticism so you may life your best life NOW.

“If you live off a man’s compliments, you’ll die from his criticisms.”
– Cornelius Lindsey

 

Overcoming negative self-criticism takes time and consistent practice. Once you learn how to silence the negative words of your inner conscious, you can begin to live your best life. Here are 5 tips to help you overcome self-criticism.

 

What Is Self-Criticism?

Golan Shahar, a clinical psychologist, describes self-criticism as “a tendency to set unrealistically high self-standards and to adopt a punitive, derogatory stance toward the self once these are not met.” This way of thinking may cause a person to constantly doubt themselves and have the false belief they aren’t good enough. These types of thoughts can lead to negative self-esteem, troubles in relationships, and even depression.

 

 

 5 Tips For Overcoming Self-Criticism

 

1. Identify Your Inner-Critic

Self-awareness is key in dealing with self-criticism. Having experienced self-critical moments, I have learned to pay greater attention to my thoughts. This is especially important during times when I’m stressed and frustrated. If I notice my conscious becoming overly critical, I will ask myself if those negative thoughts are beneficial. Recognizing when your thoughts are becoming self-critical allows you to evaluate a situation and redirect the direction of your thinking.

 

2. Be Honest With Yourself

Self-criticism often results when we fail to meet high-self standards. Instead of verbally attacking and viewing yourself as a “failure” when things don’t go as planned, take a moment to put the situation into perspective. Ask yourself if what you’re trying to achieve is realistic given the goal, time and circumstances. If you don’t achieve something it doesn’t mean you’re a failure. You may have to readjust your approach and make necessary changes as you work towards accomplishing your goals.

 

3. Develop Positive Actions

Negative thoughts and emotions only fuel criticism. Being able to identify trigger points allows you to develop positive actions when it comes to negative self-criticism. Take a moment to think of things that cause you to become overly critical of yourself. What does your criticism sound like and how do you immediately respond to it? Developing positive actions, such as deep breathing and reading positive affirmations, will help you to silence negative self-criticism.

 

4. Encourage Yourself

One of the hardest things to do for a self-critic is to give oneself a compliment or praise. I struggle with this at times and it’s something that must consciously be worked on in order to overcome your inner critic. Practice telling yourself positive affirmations such as “I’m worthy of good things”, “I’m an intelligent person”, and “My life is beautiful.” Filling yourself up with positive words and repeating them will overtime quiet that pesky negative self-critic.

 

5. Ask For Help

Life has an interesting way of turning our lowest points around to be a catalyst for our greatest triumphs. If you are experiencing significant self-criticism it can feel like you’re riding a never-ending wave of negative emotions. It’s important to remember that you don’t have to suffer in silence. If you suffer from negative self-criticism try talking with trusted family and friends. Speaking with those who love you and care about your well-being will provide you with the support you need to overcome your self-criticism. In addition, there’s nothing wrong if you need to seek professional counseling to guide you towards thinking better about yourself. Doing so will help you to approach life with a positive outlook.

 

 

Feel free to share your experience with self-criticism and ways you are overcoming it.

 

 

 

 

 

16 responses to “5 Tips To Overcome Self-Criticism”

  1. Kippi says:

    Much needed content for myself. I will be sharing this to help others too. Thank you, Kippi

  2. Great tips that everyone can relate to. Self criticism plagues so many of us and this article is very helpful.

  3. amy says:

    great tips! I’m so self critical and have trouble remembering not to be so hard on myself. thanks for sharing

  4. Emma says:

    I often find myself pointing out my self-perceived “flaws” to other people when I worry that they might be criticizing me silently. It’s like I’m attempting to reassure them that I’m aware of my faults, but in reality, it’s possible that they were never judging me at all… until I gave them reason to! I’m working on being less self-critical, so I appreciate your post!

    • Sundaye says:

      Thank you Emma! I can relate to this as well. The important thing to remember is that recognizing when you are being self-critical allows you to take actionable steps that can help you become less critical 🙂

  5. Dariana says:

    These tips are so good but very easier said than done. I truly wish I could apply these tips to my personal life

    • Sundaye says:

      It takes time to change the way you think, especially when you’re self-critical. Keep your head up and take each day as it comes. 🙂

  6. Elaine says:

    We are our own worst enemies! This is tough, esp for women.. I like what you shared, we need to be kind to ourselves.. Another point i would add, is to also surround yourself with positive energy or positive people! Thanks for this post…

    • Sunny says:

      Your welcome, and I agree we have to surround ourselves with people who uplift us and provide positive energy 🙂

  7. Lily says:

    I’m definitely working on (and struggling with!) positive self-talk, and putting things in perspective. We judge ourselves so much more harshly than we ever judge anyone else.

    • Sunny says:

      It definitely is something you have to work at. I have my up and down days as well but it gets better overtime 🙂

  8. Kseniia says:

    I’m learning how to be less critic towards myself, trying to pay attention to my achievements, not only to things I didn’t have time to do or didn’t do good enough in my opinion. This post was really helpful, thank you!

    Kseniia,
    thestylejungle.co.nz

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